I am pushing 30 years old, I have lived a lot of life in my short years here. I have been through much and seen more crap than I care to admit. I have seen relationships come and go, healthy and toxic relationships.
Something I’ve learned is how toxic most relationships are. How they literally can suck the life right out of you. You put so much into someone, especially family members and they end up overstepping their boundaries and someone always gets hurt. Someone always gets taken advantage of. We have all heard the phrase “dysfunctional” family. But I really think that problem lies within our hearts.
We are all selfish.
We all want what we want, and we’re too selfish to see past our own selves and actually realize if we would just stop talking and making every thing about us, our loved one would actually be happy.
Relationships are so hard.
Its funny how God created us to need people around us, to need to love people and care for people and have relationships, yet none of us really know how to have a healthy one. We often make decisions based on those in our immediate circle, how they feel, what they think is best, and how they would do things. Yet, we stop and miss the opportunity to pray and ask God what would be best for us. We fail to be still and let him guide our steps. Instead, we let others and the world guide us, we are afraid of the backlash of our choices or the opinions of others, just because they would do it differently.
I am done trying to make everyone else happy. I am done letting everyone else guide and control the choices I make. I am done walking on egg shells and worrying about what people will think. I choose to be still, I choose to stop talking and let God guide me and lead me where he wants me to go. I think that if we all could do this, amazing things would happen.
Life will happen.
Life, lived for God, will happen.
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